Bryan Cohen here, guest poster and author, promoting my new book The Post-College Guide to Happiness for The Happiness Blog Tour. I'm giving away free digital review copies of the book and doing a giveaway for paperback copies, audio copies and even a Kindle Fire! Read on and check out the info below the post.
"No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change."
- Barbara de Angelis
The Power to Change
Some people believe they are unhappy because they are simply predisposed to be moody, pessimistic and complainers. These folks believe that even if they tried to change themselves to be in a better state, they would immediately fall back into old habits. I don't want to go on and on about it being easy to break a pattern, because it's not. What I do want to talk about is how much we change over time whether or not we believe it.
Would you say that you're much different now than you were when you were 10 years old? Personally, I'm hugely different. I was scared of the world and other people. All I did in my free time was play video games and watch TV. I'm a way different person than I was at that age. Would you say that you're much different now than you were 10 years ago? At that age, I was wild and crazy and I knew nothing of the concepts of money, savings and interest, which didn't stop me from beginning to rack up plenty of debt. I also didn't yet know the value of hard work on things outside of academia. I suspect that you were also quite different at the age of 10 or 10 years ago. You probably have also developed and changed in the last five years or even the last year. Time and experience can change a person.
Why then is it so hard to believe that concentrated hard work and consistency can change a person as well? If you workout your biceps, triceps and pectoral muscles over time, you end up with more sculpted biceps, triceps and pectoral muscles. If by the same token, you work your compassion, optimism and work ethic over time, you will end up with more powerful facilities for compassion, optimism and work ethic. In my book, The Post-College Guide to Happiness, I set out 35 exercises to do just that. I believe that if you practice the positive version of the habits you'd like to change, then over time you will make yourself into a new happier person.
Don't assume that your boss is making you unhappy or your co-workers. Your circumstances have very little impact on your happiness. The choice of whether or not you are happy is up to you. Start working on your happiness daily and you'll find a lifetime of joy waiting for you.
Bryan Cohen is giving away 61 paperback and audio copies of The Post-College Guide to Happiness and a Kindle Fire between now and May 7th, 2012 on The Happiness Blog Tour. All entrants receive a free digital review copy of The Post-College Guide to Happiness. Bryan hopes to give away at least 1,000 copies during the blog tour. To enter, post a comment with your e-mail address or send an e-mail to postcollegehappiness (at) gmail.com. Bryan will draw the names at the end of the tour. Entries will be counted through Sunday, May 6th.
Bryan Cohen is a writer, actor and comedian from Dresher, Pennsylvania. He graduated from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill in 2005 with degrees in English and Dramatic Art and a minor in Creative Writing. He has written nine books including 1,000 Creative Writing Prompts: Ideas for Blogs, Scripts, Stories and More, 500 Writing Prompts for Kids: First Grade through Fifth Grade, Writer on the Side: How to Write Your Book Around Your 9 to 5 Job and his new book, 1,000 Character Writing Prompts: Villains, Heroes and Hams for Scripts, Stories and More. His website Build Creative Writing Ideas helps over 25,000 visitors a month to push past writer's block and stay motivated.